Change for the Better

After we accept where we are in our unemployment-things start to become more clear. Not immediately as we would like for them to- but eventually you will be able to see your previous employment with less of a filter. 

It took me a few weeks to accept that leaving/getting let go from a job was a GOOD thing. I was able to look back on events, conversations, moments and dynamics more clearly- and recognized that I wasn’t meant to be there. I was also able to realize how other factors come into play when businesses let people go-variables like budgets, new management, mergers, and- unfortunately, toxic people. 

I had my moments- feeling hurt, mad, frustrated, confused, excited to finally be done there-you name the adjective-I felt it. Allowing myself the time to grieve and be upset- let me later come to terms that I was moving in a different direction with my career and life.

I have also stewed and have been stuck in a rut about being unemployed. I wasn’t taking care of myself or properly moving forward, I was being stubborn and staying mad. I decided to seek out a professional who could help me dissect what happened, and help me see the other side of things- and move forward.

I have been fortunate enough to have professional help during my unemployment, I have learned through therapy that worrying about being unemployed will not help the situation- but will make it worse. I have also had great friends who have, quite literally, shook me and said  “this is temporary! You will be okay!!” And I’m so grateful for their honesty and friendship. 

By keeping myself busy during the ‘bored days’ I was able to realize that working at a job was just- a job. It didn’t define me, it didn’t make me less worthy of being happy. It was an exchange- of my time and skills for money. 

And the new journey that opened up for me (whether I liked it or not) was truly a change-for the better.